Posted in Books, Family, Kids, Parenting, Prayer, The Word

Family Devotions: Sort Of

While my wife takes on the bulk of the responsibility when it comes to educating our kids, one role that can’t be abdicated by me as a Dad is in the area of Family Devotion. While having a family devotion is not the only way we are to Disciple our kids in Christ, it is one of the main places we can grow our family together.

This does not have to be complicated. It’s best for it to be simple and consistent than to be complex and occasional. You don’t have to have smoke, lights, and musical talent. Neither do you have to have a PHD in hermeneutics.

This is not something I had ever seen modeled before I had a family of my own. I had only read about in a few books (Like Faith Driven Family). I’ve been around Christian families my entire life, but apparently not at the time they were having a devotion. Unfortunately many assume this is what “church” is for. About six years ago, when my kids were between two and eight I started “trying” to have family devotions. The kids would have a hard time paying attention, I would lose my spot reading, and the time seemed more like a wrestling match than a devotion time. The problem was not with the kids, but with my expectations. I was expecting too much. All I had ever seen was the “Church” example. So instead of trying to make it a chore, we tried to make it fun. So here three quick pointers to get you going


Set a time. Nothing happens unless you plan it. For us it’s the first thing in the morning, for you it maybe at night. Develop a family routine so that after several weeks there is an expectation that we are going to do a family devotion. It usually takes us around 10 to 15 minutes for us to do this. Sometimes its longer (because we are enjoying it) and sometimes its 5 minutes in the car on the go (but these are exceptions).


Everyone should be a part. This is not just Dad’s time with the kids. Have mom, dad, dogs and all the babies sitting under the Bible for a few minutes can do wonders for your family. I know this could be more difficult with teenagers, but if you start them young, they won’t know any different.


Keep it simple. We typical Read (the Bible or Devotion), pray and occasionally sing.

When my kids were younger we used the “One Year Devotions for Kids“. (You can download these as Kindle Books and keep them on your phone). These devotions are built around story situations where the kids may learn a virtue or a value. To me it’s important to always to connect these to Jesus and make sure he is the hero.

More recently we use Training Hearts Teaching Minds by Starr Meade (Not on Kindle). It uses the catechisms to teach kids how to respond to spiritual questions. It is broken down into a Monday through Saturday readings that are very short. By teaching the Kids these catechisms, you will give them something to carry with them. We should always encourage participation by asking kids what they think. Never shut them off even when they are wrong. Let them finish their though and gently point out the truth. If you are always correcting their efforts to learn they may become discouraged and not participate in the future (Ephesians 6:4).

Often we will sing. I wish I could play an instrument. But thanks to YouTube we can waste our life, or find worship songs and hymns with lyrics and music all together. We will let one child pick a song and we will watch and sing along.

Here are a few of our favorites (click the links)

Amazing Grace



Finally, I will also often ask if the kids if anyone would like to volunteer to pray for us as a family. Sometimes I pray or mom prays. Other times we ask for prayer request before praying. If one of our kids shares something, we may ask another one of our kids to pray for that request. We want to them pray for each other not just themselves.

I really hope this helps. You will NEVER regret any time spent leading your family this way. It is very rewarding in and of itself.

If you have found other resources of things that work for your family, feel free to comment and share for others.

Posted in Family, Money

Disney World: A Few Tips

Last month we made a return visit to Disney World. It had been five years since our family had been and I wanted to write to let friends and family know about a few changes at the parks and what we learned on this trip.

Two years ago we signed up for the Disney Rewards Visa card and started earning points toward the trip. We paid everything on the cards that we could (paying the balance off at the end of each month of course) which helped us pay for about half the trip.

We lodged in the Port Orleans – River Side Resort and did sign up for the Dinning Plan again. We’ve never stayed “off grounds” but using the Disney trasportation system makes it easier on Mom and Dad. Once there I can relax and worry about what I’m going to eat next isntead of navigating traffic J


Something new are the “MajicBands” show in the picture above. You use these to scan in in order to gain access to your room, to the parks, to pay for meals, and to access the fastpass system. They sent our to us a few weeks before the trip. I understood how these would work on everything I mentioned except the fastpass system. It turns out not many of the “cast memebers” (Disney Employees) knew how the new fastpass system worked either. We latered learned that with the MajicBands you can get fastpasses for up to 3 attractions/rides per day. These rides are scheduled from yoru smartphone from the MyDisneyExperince app and then accessed using your MajicBands. This was a significan change from the old manual fastpass system which allowed you to get up to 7 maybe 8 fastpass ticktets each day if you “worked” the system.

One of the highligts of the trip was seeing the Frozen Princeses at Epcot (Norway). We went there frist thing in the moring only to find out there was a 5 hour wait. Others had gained access to the park earnly with breakfast reservation (TIP) and were in line first. We retured later in the day and were told that there was a 3 hour wait. Since this was going to be the hihglight of the trip for our daughter we decided to wait it out. My wife and I took turns waiting in line with her. We found out later that only one person had to be in line to hold the spot. But in the end she got time with the princeses and I had to listen to those tourcherous songs again.

Another high demand attraction my son enjoyed was the Jedi Knight Training academy. We went there first thing to reserve a spot for my son. We knew rain was moving in for mid-day so we scheduled the training for late afternoon which ended up working out perfectly (TIP). Some of the shows where canceled due to the rain. Basically is a fun show for 20 kids at a time who get a 10 second fight with Darth Vader. The show is really fun as the characters make fun of the kids participating.

The final TIP I’d like to share is around viewing the Illuminations Earth fireworks show at Epcot. It is usually starts at 9 pm each night. I was looking forward to the show, but dreading the exit from the park with all 10 billion people leaving at the same time. After googling for a tip, I found a site that said to go to the Beach Club resort and then walk over into Epcot for the show. So we took the bus back to our resort and drove our car over the Beach Club/Boardwalk area. We ate dinner there and then walked over the bridge right back in to Epcot (We had to scan back in of course). We watched the fireworks from the bridge and walked right back to our car at drove back to our hotel. I’m convinced it saved us an hour and we didn’t have to fight people.

Hope you find these beneficial just wanted to share while they were fresh on my mind. TD


Posted in Family, Kids, Marriage, Parenting, Theology

Home Life Café Notes – Life Action Summit

These are my rough notes I took today at the Home Life Café’. The speakers were Steve and Steven Canfield.

These guys did a great job providing solid Biblical teaching around Marriage, Parenting, Dating, and Family in General.



Psalm 127:3-5


Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
    the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
    are the children[a] of one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
    who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
    when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.[b



The Christian home is to bring glory to God.  It’s not that we don’t have dysfunction; it’s the way we deal with dysfunction (that is the witness that brings glory to God).


See your spouse as a precocious gift

See your kids as a precocious gift.


Invest your life and influence in other people’s children.




A. Not Based on Performance

        Unconditional Love


B. Based on their placement



C. Based on their preciousness as a unique person

        Sovereignty of God


How? With expressions of Love through

        Words “I’m proud of you”




Ask grown men what they wished their Dad’s would have said, most said they wish he would say “I love you”




Teach Well 

(Intentionality – it takes great effort to get God into their mental grid)

        Bedroom first – Marriage First

        Dining Room – Family 2nd (Talk with Kids)

Spontaneously… take every opportunity to point your family to Christ.

Be an Example – Live IT!  Be an example


Counter-Culture AND Culturally Relevant


PSALM 78 *- Is a great passage to help the kids understand the generations past and to for them to put their hope in God.






Do you know where your kids’ hearts are?



An accusation hardens the will, a question convicts the conscience.


On their birthday I would ask if I had let them down, or hurt them, in any way.

Ask their kids to ask for it.


Story:  about daughter who was still holding anger toward month, because her teacher that she had meet with her mom and her mom told the teacher that the girls was a liar.  The mom never said that, but the girl grew up hurt and mad at her mom for something she never said.  The devil can be like the teacher and accuse us and confuse our grid.




Waste Time with God (Without an agenda)

Waste Time with your Family (Without an agenda)


*Deal with the heart not just their Behavior.


The goal is to win and keep their hearts.  

To raise godly kids, not just good kids.




Training (High Control for Obedience) 0-5

Explaining (High content for Wisdom) 6-10

Sustaining (High Reiteration for Maturity) 11-18

        (Being sensitive to what God is telling them)

Remaining (High Encouragement for Godliness) 19- and on





In Conflict resolution (How did Jesus resolve Conflict? -Conflict)

In Entertainment (Give wisdom on what we choose-Choices)

In Hardship and unfair circumstances (Crisis)

In how they view other People and things (Culture)



TAKEAWAYS – Ask kids if they have something against me. Or some way I failed you?



The Forces of Darkness will carry out a strategy toward the destruction of your family on three basic fronts:

OUR FAILURES (See below)




FALSEHOOD and FANTICY* The Soil of Parenting is the resource from which your children draw nourishment.





By Confession of your wrong to your family.

Mom’s sin is more on the outside because of her personality and Dad’s is more on the inside.


Note the Deeper the failure the more difficult the reconciliation will probably be.





THE ONLY FAIR WAY (To Lovingly Discipline)

1. Establish these

We say, “Obey first time, every time.”

One Time

Normal Voice

Expect Obedience


2. Loving Discipline: Combating their on sinfulness

GOAL: Biblical Obedience Eph 6:1-3

(Difference in Rebellion and Childishness aka Immaturity)


Creative consequence for immaturity and forgetfulness


Spanking for Rebellion




  1. Confrontation (Don’t send them to their room; send them to your room) – Give them time to cool down


  1. Reflection (to cool time both them and you)) don’t spank in anger


  1. Verbal Correction


  1. Confession (What did you DO that was wrong? Don’t tell them) they need to verbalize their disobedient act.


  1. Confirmation (Eph 4:32 – be kind to one another) what does the bible say?
  2. Ask God to reveal lying and leave the Conviction to God.


  1. Physical Correction ((Spank in the Spirit)


  1. Restoration


  1. Care


  1. Repentance


Wise Protection from Fantasy and Falsehood


Word Based Filters  (Friend Filters – they will become like who they hang around)


Sleepovers – Nothing good 😉


Influences Filters (Teachers, Youth Workers, Coaches)

  Remember even bad filters are good.


Entertainment Filters

        Humanistic Lies


        Offensive Language

        Sexual Content & Humor



Dating Relationships Filters:

The Purpose of Dating should be to find a mate for the glory of God!


The Practices of Dating should be determined or approved by the parents not the children.


The Person for Dating should be filtered through biblical grid: (The person should be: Parental Blessing, Heart for God…. Submission to Authority…. Maturity)


The Purity of Dating should be initiated not assumed.



Remember we need to find from a spiritual vantage point

1. Expose you kids to people with a passion for God.


2. Provide resources for Spiritual enrichment


3. Encourage Spiritual Progress



Pray together as couple

Pray as family

Pray together daily

Develop family prayer targets


“Train up the way a child will go and when he is old (Puberty) he will not depart from it.  Your only have 12 years to train.


There is freedom in Simple Living

“Junk expands to fill the space provided”


Hudson Taylor (If he haven’t used it in a year; he would throw it away)



TIME AROUND THE WORD (Family Devotions)


-sing truth




Lure them to righteousness (Give temporary reward toward spiritual pursuits)

Develop ruts of righteousness. Paying for Reading the Bible, etc



Biblical Masculinity

Biblical Femininity


1. Confirm their Masculinity or Femininity from a young Age.

2. Spend time with them in gender focused outings

3.  Give them good role models to imitate 4.  Encourage their gender maturity.


Search for 32 Series and watch for how to parent boys.

Posted in Family, Kids, LifeHacks, Marriage, Parenting, Technology

Web Filtering Available NOW on IPhone, iPad, and iPod (iOS 7)

iphoneIf you have updated your iphone, ipad or iPod in the last few months to iOS7, you now have the ability to have websites (and other content) filtered.  This is a HUGE weapon for families in the battle against pornography.  If you haven’t activated this on your child’s device or had your accountability partner activate it on your device, be sure to do this TODAY!

Here is a link to the steps for setting this up.

Its easy and effective.

Posted in Bloggers, Family, Productivity

2013 Blog in review

I still enjoy blogging but have had less time in the last few years, becuase of a decision I’ve made to give time to my family. Now that my kids are getting older I hope to have more time to spend sharing my random thoughts and ideas. Happy 2014

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 5,500 times in 2013. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 5 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

Posted in Church, Family, Friends & Family, Ministry, Missions

A New Season

Five years ago I sensed a call to leave our church of 12 years and relocated to Petal to be a part of the life and ministry of Turning Pointe Church. During this time our kids have grown physically and we all have grown spiritually and emotional. The people of Turning Pointe have taken us in, cared for us, and taught us how to love and serve more fully.


Now we sense God calling us to a new work. There is much that we don’t know. As of now the LORD has put into our hearts, to relocated back to West Hattiesburg (4th Street Area). Once there we hope to start meeting with others in a Missional Community (A Missions Focused Small Group). We are submitted to His will and trust that he will lead us in his time.


First Thessalonians Chapter 2 expresses how Paul felt as he looked back on his time with the Thessalonians Church. In this passage I found verse 8 which summarizes our feelings toward you all; “Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well.” We Love You All.


Never stop “Turning People to Christ”,

Trenidy & JJ Davis

Posted in Entertainment, Family, Parenting, Technology

Family Tech/Media Agreement

Someone called and asked me about this today; so I thought I post and share. It’s a combination of others that I found online.  I print this out and discuss it with the kids a few times every year.  Then I have them sign it and post it in the kitchen.

(Surfing,Texting Social Media, iPod, Gaming)

1. I will not give out personal information such as my address, telephone number, parents’ work address/telephone number, or the name and location of my home without my parents’ permission.
2. I will tell my parents right away if I come across any information, photos, or videos that makes me feel uncomfortable.
3. I will never agree to get together with someone I “meet” online without first checking with my parents. If my parents agree to the meeting, I will be sure that it is in a public place and bring my mother or father along.
4. I will never send (email or text) or post a picture of myself or anyone else without first checking with the person photo’d and my parents.
5. I will not respond to any messages that are mean or in any way make me feel uncomfortable. It is not my fault if I get a message like that. If I do I will tell my parents right away so that they help me avoid future content.
6. I will talk with my parents so that we can set up rules for going online. We will decide upon the time of day that I can be online, the length of time I can be online and appropriate areas for me to visit. I will not access other areas or break these rules without their permission.
7. I will not give out account passwords to anyone (even my best friends) other than my parents.
8. I will check with my parents before downloading or installing apps or doing anything that could possibly hurt our computer/phones/iPods or jeopardize my family’s privacy.
9. I will be a good online citizen and not do anything that hurts other people or is against the law. I would never write or post things that I would not want shown on the evening news.
10. I understand that bad people can be VERY GOOD at pretending to be a friend of your age. I will NEVER talk to strangers even if they are my age.

I understand that using Technology is a privilege and my parents have installed apps and software to keep evil out of our lives. I understand that if I break the rules my parents give me then I will lose my technology/media privileges.


Children sign here

Posted in Culture, Family, Kids, Money, Parenting, The Word

Who Are We?

Think about your children, what are all the needs they will have in their lifetime? Physical, Social, Emotional. In “The Sensation of Being Somebody”, Maurice Wagner suggests that all these needs could be grouped into three categories.

  • Acceptance
  • Security
  • Significance

How do people go about trying to gain acceptance, security, significance?

  • Work
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Jobs
  • Money
  • Kids
  • Church

All of these are really good things; things we consider blessings. But can we really depend on these to meet our primary needs?

What happens if a relationship fails? Or what if we lose our job or our savings? What if our children don’t turn out the way we hoped? What if the new pastor changes the church we love?

Only, in and through a personal relationship with Jesus can these greatest needs be permanently satisfied. Our faith relationship with Christ is brought into reality through His promises in the Scripture. 2 Peter 3:3-4 reads,

His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.

Below are just a few of these promises. Memorize these and remind yourself and your children that Christ is the truth, not our feelings, and in him all of our needs have been and will be meet.


  • 1 John 3:1 “How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.”


  • Romans 8:35-39 ” Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?  As it is written:
    “For your sake we face death all day long;
         we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”

     No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.  For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ”


  • 1 Peter 2:9 “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”
Posted in Education, Family, Homeschooling, Parenting

So You Are Considering Homeschooling?

My wife and I developed these questions to help parents think through homeschooling for their families. I encourage you to sit down with your spouse and give thought to each of these questions and write out your responses below. I believe God can use these question to bring clarity to anyone interest in homeschooling.

  1. Why do we desire to homeschool?


  2. What is our ultimate goal for our children through the process of homeschooling?


  3. How well equipped do we feel to educate our children through the different stages of their development? How do we plan to educate ourselves about homeschooling?


  4. What role does our faith play in our homeschool desire and design?


  5. How much money will it cost us to homeschool? How much do we plan to spend on curriculum and programs?


  6. What will our homeschooling schedule look like? Schedule Months, Days, and Specific Hours