Last week I was able to hear Dr. Tim Elmore give a talk entitled, “Marching Off the Map: A Compass to Help the Next Generation Navigate New Technology and Spirituality”. Last year, after reading his book, “Artificial Maturity” I started following him at his website www.growingleaders.com.
Below are the notes I took during his talk. If you have or work with young adults (teens through 30 year olds) I suggest you start reading the blog , books, and resources from Growing Leaders.
This is the first generation that
Doesn’t need adults to get information (They need us for interpretation)
- They don’t need us to access it but to process
- Helping our kids learn how to think not what to think
- Can broadcast their every thought or emotion
- Enjoys external stimuli at their fingertips 24/7
In social contact at all times yet often in isolation
- Extremely social but not relational
- Most sleep with phones
- Showering with a cell phone
- Low Emotional Intelligence for kids and Adults
- Will learn more form a portable device than a class
Adults have actually been enabled to be narcissistic
- Every year Narcissism is going up in Students
- People are into themselves – Selfy Pics
- However, The real world is not about them
Uses a phone instead of a wristwatch, camera, wall calendar or board game.
Dr. Elmore refers to the Millennial generation as, Generation iY, because life is pretty much about “i” (Self Centered)
Generation iY S.C.E.N.E
- Accustom to S- Speed: They Assume Slow is Bad
- Accustom to C- Convenience: They Assume Hard is Bad
- Accustom to E-Entertainment: They Assume Boring is Bad
- Accustom to N-Nurture: They Assume Risk is Bad
- Accustom to E-Entitlement: They Assume Labor is Bad
So, How should we lead them?
1. Don’t think Control, think Connect (Be authentic, Real)
We must build bridges of relationships that can bear the weight of truth.
Balance Screen time with face time. Every minute on device is a minute in person.
2. Don’t think Inform, think Interpret (How think, not just what)
3. Don’t think Entertain, think Equip. (Share why they need what we teach, before what)
Churches are good at preaching, but not equipping.
4. Don’t think “Do It for Them”, think “Help Them Do It.”
Let them fail (They took the monkey bars off playgrounds becuase we didn’t want them to get hurt now in their 20s they won’t take risk.)
5. Don’t think Impose, think Expose. (Expose beats Impose every time)
6. Don’t think Protect, think Prepare.
Unbelievable, some school district no longer use Fs , the lowest is D is “Delayed Success”! Graces does not take away truth.
7. Don’t think Tell, Think Ask (Learn to ask good questions)
8. Don’t think Cool, think Real. (To these kids the only thing that is worse than being uncool, is being unreal)
9. Don’t thin Prescriptive, think Descriptive
10. Don’t Lecture, think Lab. (Missional experience: Serving Others)
Over the next several weeks I’ll be posting other notes from this conference (Catalyst 2013) I recently attended.